I heard a grandmother talking about how her 5 – year old is learning music and how..wait for it! The sentence did not end about how proud she was of the little one singing but ..again..wait for it.. about how her beats are uncoordinated with her tune and how initially her singing was off-tune as well. I unfortunately couldn’t keep quiet during this conversation and blurted out. It is a five year old ..FIVE YEAR OLD! And this is not the first time I hear such things. I have seen people around me having high standards, not for themselves but for others around and especially the next generation. It isn’t surprising because I have heard the same from my own mom, grandma and other family members when growing up.
Learning is equated to perfection and attaining celebrity status. Thanks to reality shows like American Idol, Super Singer, Dancing with the stars and the like. Parents want their children and grand children to be on fast track and assume that their child is going to be the next super star in whatever they are made to learn and that is what every teacher should train them for as well.
*Newsflash * That is not the goal of learning. Teach your child to love what they learn, teach them to enjoy art and to explore different things and pick what they like. And all you people who criticize , *one more newsflash* you are mere spectators. Unfortunately, you are not an expert nor a critic. Nor are you putting in any effort in this learning which your little one is going through. No, please don’t tell me I pay for it or I take time to take him/her to class. Please!
Now that my outburst is done. Cooling down to type sane.
- Expose your children to various activities and arts and set a path for them to really enjoy and learn it.
- Give it time: It takes time to learn and master things. Child prodigies exist , but many successful artists who had no background learnt for the love of it. So you have to appreciate and encourage the learners and be patient. And if they decide not to master it or go on to be in reality shows, you have to respect that as well.
- Let the trainers deal with it: The whole reason why there are experts to teach are because..well they are the experts. So stay away from it. If you were one, you would be teaching yourself. Help the learner to develop a relationship with the guru. It is not just art but an inspirer/mentor who will enhance the process.
- Teach them to love and they will grow to excel: Love breeds excellence so if the learner loves what they are learning then they will strive to excel in it.
- Remember to shut up : Couldn’t help but say it. If you can’t say something nice then don’t say anything. I guess I have made that point clear already.
What is your take on this post? I would love to hear your experiences and thoughts 🙂 Thank you!