So, if you already didn’t know, I got in conversation with a few newly wed or to-be NRI brides. And here you go are some inputs from all of us ! You can find Part 1 here. You are all set to get married in your home country and for some reason (education, work, travel) you are far away. How do you cope with it and what can you expect?
Part 2 is entirely based on inputs from Adithi, a student in Europe who is going to get married in a couple of months 🙂
Invite your foreigner friends and increase the chances of exposing our heritage says Adithi
The biggest advantage of being in a different country is the contacts you make and the exposure to different cultures. Just as how you would have learnt about the culture of the country you live in, they would want to know about yours as well. So invite them and give them a taste of your rich heritage. That would involve showing around the city like tourists to teaching them to eat with their hands on a banana leaf 😉
I am sure it is going to be a great experience for her family as well 🙂
Save on shopping
Buy less sarees and jewellery as you would not have occasions and events to wear them in the place you live. In this way, save huge amounts of money. The whole concept of buying so many clothes during Indian weddings is with an assumption that you would wear it after the wedding. But most of us who live abroad hardly get to wear it a few times in a year.
And the fashionista in us would want to keep up with buying a new style every year than buying 10 new ones now and repeat it for the next few years. So buy less and cut down your shopping costs now!!
Time is a killing factor when it is three time zones
In Adithi’s case, the groom stays in a different country (hence, different time zone) and the parents stay in India. So she has to deal with coordinating with three time zones to get even the smallest things done. And as opposed to the difference between US and India, the difference between Europe and India is not that favorable like how I had mentioned in the previous post. It also leads to people not being able to come up with a decision in the limited time available. Leading to misunderstanding and miscommunication. Lot of learning on people and relationship management.
You are away from the societal pressure
Yesss! So , another advantage of living abroad is you are far away from the norms of your society or family. When you live in your hometown the chances of people interfering in your decision making or judging you is high. When you are abroad there is less pressure of the society and no intervention of relatives. So decide and plan your wedding your style putting thoughts and mind to everything you do.
Contribute for your wedding
If we say NRI , then chances are that you are working if you are in job, use that to contribute in significant way to your own marriage. Though the norm is the parents planning and spending for it, change the norm. You parents will sure be proud for you taking that step.
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