Six months since the big day. Good food in our bellies, henna stained hands, decorated with colorful flowers, animated conversations and bright smiles, surrounded by the people we love. The day I had to wake up at 2 AM to get decked up for the ceremonies that started at 5 AM 😛 It definitely was a very memorable day !
In the long four hour ceremony, I still remember that moment when I felt “married”. It wasn’t when my dad gave me away to the new family or when R tied the sacred knots. It was when the priest asked us to look into the other person’s eyes, after walking around the fire seven times. As we looked into each other’s eyes, the priest reminded us about love and our promise to be there for each other. It was the moment when it hit me , all teared up I said my vows silently, promising R my everything. Our words had always been love, compassion, commitment, acceptance and independence.
Show each other love like there is no tomorrow.
Being compassionate at all times to each other.
Staying committed in the relationship come what may.
Accepting each other as we are.
And acknowledging each other’s independence and personal space.
And last one is mine –Hope.
Anyway, SIX MONTHS!! How has it been? I want to say time flew..but it didn’t. It does not, I am sure, for anyone in a long-distance relationship. We are in a phase of waiting, waiting to talk to your SO who is in a different time-zone. Waiting for the weekend to see the other person on a screen, waiting for those rare weekends where you get to spend time in-person. We kept convincing ourselves that marriage changes nothing, joking about still being bachelors. It is true, marriage did not change anything outward but a lot inside. We are still bachelors but with our hearts far away.
Distance has only made us grow more fond of each other. The efforts we make to make the best out of each call and each trip. As we keep our negative emotions in check and work towards keeping each other(and ourselves) happy. Hoping that this phase would serve as a reminder and that we appreciate each other better when we live together and see each other everyday.
We don’t know what the future has in store for us. Maybe I will write about living together when we complete a year, maybe not. But all I know is, either way I am really really grateful to have R in my life. To have found someone with whom you share a relationship that just feels right. No drama, doubts or insecurity attached. 🙂 I do look forward to many more milestones and phases and curious about how it is going to pan out.
P.S: The above picture is special, done by an old Chinese artist in the streets of New York City. I had been super excited to get it done. And was upset when it got destroyed a couple of weeks ago. I have been trying hard to “save” memories of us. And this was a reminder that we can’t save every (material) memory from a relationship.
What are your memories about your six month milestone? Do share and leave a comment if you stop by 🙂