Bae or no Bae?

Bae,” Urban Dictionary says, is an acronym that stands for “before anyone else,” or a shortened version of baby or babe, another word for sweetie, and, mostly unrelated, poop in Danish.

The latest endearment word that’s been going around. Every time I read it I start laughing out loud because in my head a tiny voice says it out loud – baeee/behh/baaee. Believe me I wish I could record that voice and play it to you guys!

My latest way of driving R crazy has been by texting him bae whenever I am bored and enjoying his reaction every single time. To put it mildly, he hates it. It baffles him that of all the words already available to be used to call your SO , people chose bae. I am not a fan of it either but I don’t judge. I couldn’t care less if you call your SO in more revolting ways. As long as it has the effect you desire on the other person.

                                  

 

So why am I writing about this?

  1. If you didn’t notice , I have been off my game for a month now. I keep thinking I should update my blog but it never happened and so today was an ultimatum to myself. (and this was the best I could come up with :-/ )
  2. The usage of this word as a joke made me realize that such things can also create your moments. R’s realization on how bae is not his thing also made him realize what his words were and how their usage will shield him from getting more bae texts from me 😛

So what’s your take on this? Bae or bae .. what are your most favorite words to address your SO?

 

 

 

 

The ‘Married Name’ Conundrum!

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“You didn’t change your name ?” 

“No I didn’t because… “

I have answered it so many times now in the last few months.

No I am not offended by the question since it is a norm for centuries and so people are curious when someone decides not to change their name. And then comes the second question

“What would your name be if you had decided to change?”

“Ermm..” …the conversation continues for 30 more minutes as I explain the various aspects of a south-Indian name.
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Of potlucks and gatherings

 

Hello! It has been a couple of weeks since I updated my blog. Just been one of those phases with many drafts and none published. So much happening in the country and around the world, lot to process, lot of emotions. I decided to let go of everything and post something completely  unrelated. For the love of food and the experiences at potlucks !!

*Another potluck*

Being an Indian abroad we always have social gatherings and a lot that involve potluck lunch or dinners. No, this is not an organized ‘I bring an entree, you bring a dessert one’ but ‘I will bring something and you bring something’ ones. So we end up having dinner which have multiple versions of the same item. And many a time by a large group of people (whom we don’t know) whose culinary skills we don’t know about.

So what do you do at a potluck?

Observe

Look around the table to see what is on the menu today

  • 4 trays of lemon rice in different shades of yellow
  • 2 kinds Potato podimas (mashed potatoes with spices)
  • 2 kinds of potato fry
  • 3 kinds of puliyogare  (tamarind rice) distinguished by the amount of peanuts in each one
  • 2 kinds of  channa masala (chick peas)
  • 3 trays of sundal– black eyed beans, black chana dal and peas
  • and finally 4 kinds of curd rice
  • In addition a few trays of frozen samosas and pakoras and (ofocurse) dessert

Assess

Color, texture, consistency, presentation (yes they do matter when there is more than one)

  • This lemon rice lacks color, this is not mixed well, this looks perfect – on the plate
  • These potatoes are cut too big to fry, this podimas doesn’t have enough turmeric, these potatoes are cut right and looks great
  • This puliyogare has enough peanuts and well-cooked, non-mushy rice
  • This channa masala has better consistency and less watery than the other
  • This sundal has the right amount of coconut and curry leaves – win!!
  • Curd rice 1 too dry, curd rice 2 – no tempering, curd rice 3- too many pomegranate seeds, curd rice 4- looks creamy and inviting – on the plate

Attack

Once you have assessed and know what you want to eat, ATTACK before others do 😛

Finally

Socialize   (…only if you really want to.)

Unfortunately free food means free conversations too. So make sure you say hi to a couple of people and have a conversation. Well, if you don’t feel like it you can always pretend to like kids and sit closer to them as they are on their Nintendo, Wii, PS4 and would leave you alone!!

So ..what are your thoughts on potlucks and gatherings? What is your favorite dish to take for one?

 

 

 

 

When the ‘Other Woman’ is Football!

I recently read a news article where a guy in UK made his girlfriend take an Arsenal quiz , and declared he will not dump her because she got a whopping 87%. When I sent it to my SO* he was really laughing out loud. I told him, that I would get negative scores if he tried to quiz me. First, I did not even realize I had said Arsenals and not Arsenal .. *beeeeeeeep*I had already started with a negative score.

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Let’s talk about the cool Maamis and Mamas!

So you must have heard the youngsters crib about how the mamas and mamis are behind them asking their scores,
jobs, salary, marital status , birth control or the lack of it(!) and what not! I being one of those people, felt that I should also give credit to the cool mamas and maamis out there for diverting their energy into more cooler things other than somebody’s personal life :D. So here are a few I have observed around me:

The Chef maami

Amazing chef who doles out a variety of dishes and feeds her children and everyone else’s children all the time. Her goal is to make sure everyone is kshemam (happy/satisfied) by feeding. The latest version of her makes all traditional food healthy style by substituting rice with quinoa, brown rice, oil with olive oil and yet they taste amazing. And that might be a reason why her children have so many friends 😛

The Style maami

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This is my bff’s mom. She loves shopping. It is not just for sarees or gold but for the latest trends. She shops for my friend to make sure she wears the latest trends out there (sigh! J) She also wears clothes that are fashionable and age appropriate. She sports sunglasses and tees. She travels and shops weather appropriate as well.

The Blogger mama

This mama blogs about everything under the sun on his blog. He has a wonderful command over English or a language of his choice. He knows history, philosophy, politics , business and sometimes even gives relationship advice.  He reaches out to everyone and has a fan following. He is progressive, wise and probably is his son/daughter’s best friend.

The Retro patti

This is mine (Proud!). .  Her advice to me when I was 22 was ” Study, travel and shape your own life.” When i was 24 was ” Find love, chuck horoscopes and be with the person who matches your heart not your horoscope” When I am 25, she follows all latest wedding trends on her tablet and emails me all updates 🙂 She cooks pasta and pizzas at home. She can make all smoothies you can think of. She bakes, knits and maintains a rooftop garden. (Happy tears)

The “Sports” thatha

This is mine as well..His exact words every time I call is “Hello my dear granddaughter”. He loves sports , watches all cricket and football matches aired on TV and has even pulled all-nighters. You will probably see him making a long conversation with someone only when it involves sports, gardening or something worthwhile and not someone’s personal life. He loves travelling with his significant other and wears tee-shirts that I get him. The last one I got him had a quip about beer on it 😛

The Gadget and Social Media Gurus

They have a smartphone, tablet or an iPad on them always. They tweet, Facebook and whatsapp. They follow their kids, nephews, nieces, kid’s friends and also create all kinds of whatsapp groups. They are tech savvy, know online etiquette (most of the time), connect with like minded people -be it religion, cooking or sports and know how to have a good time with gadgets. The only con is they sometimes tend to embarrass their kids by commenting inappropriately or update a personal message as a status instead of sending it personally. But once they cross the initial glitches they do work towards becoming pros.

So do you know any of the above kinds of aunties or uncles? Maybe a different kind? Let me know 😀

PMYOB

Please Mind Your Own Business

 

These letters flash through my head whenever somebody asks me irrelevant questions. I was trying to place where I learnt this word..it means Please Mind Your Own Business. It was written on top of the black board during physics class by our teacher in middle school. A very no nonsense lady who insisted on reminding us this every class. More than physics I guess this stuck in my head better. I am no poster child for minding my own business. All I do is crib and find fault in the system and write or talk about it without minding my own business. But seriously, haven’t you felt like saying this to people (who are not related to you in anyway whatsoever) when they ask awkward questions?

Here are some of my PMYOB questions:

For teenagers growing up in India: What is your tenth/twelfth marks?

To PhD or Masters with thesis students: When are you planning to graduate?

For people working in the US: What visa are you on?

A question asked from the time I was pretty young .. Are you a “Brahmin”? ( Sometimes with surprise! ) Followed by Iyer or Iyengar? (which are sub castes). I really wonder how it matters for people who work with me or who are acquaintances or in fact anyone.

For unmarried girls and boys: Are your parents looking for a match? (Same questions asked to the parents as well!)

Are you single?

If you aren’t single:  When are you guys planning to get married?

If you are married- Any good news? (meaning “Are you pregnant?”) Well, if you didn’t know that’s the only “good news” people have in their whole lives is increasing the population of the already over-filled planet.

Why are you wearing black on a special occasion?

Do you have any questions that make you want to say PMYOB? Share it below !